Stop Fucking Comparing Yourself with Others

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There is nothing wrong with admiring others who are better/smarter/stronger than yourself. Everybody can probably attest to the phenomenon that spending time with such people makes you improve faster than spending time in an environment full of losers. This is why I have argued in the past that Finding People Smarter than Yourself can be an effective strategy to improve yourself intellectually.

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Sophia Loren comparing herself with genetically blessed Jayne Mansfield.

However, comparing yourself with others and trying to emulate their results is a great idea if you want to feel depressed and undervalued. The internet especially has made it incredibly easy to find those kind of people who are way ahead of your game. Arnold’s chest and biceps are a pleasure to look at BUT firmly clinging to the idea that with the right kind of training and nutrition you can look like him is completely illusionary.

„It’s about time we stop trying to look like elite bodybuilders, lift like pro powerlifters, and move like Olympic athletes.“

„It’s about time we stop trying to outcompete people smarter than ourselves, make more money than successful business people and live the lives of others.“

 

I am not suggesting you can’t look up to these people and use them as role models. But too often people who are not willing to invest the work and dedication necessary, will become envious of the achievements of people they so admire and get frustrated with constant underachievement. The

 

Realise That You Can’t Copy Someone Else

gain-weight-fast-for-skinny-guysThe internet, in particular the fitness industry, wants you to believe that with the right of kind of training and latest supplements (no mention of steroids of course), you will be able to build gain elite status in the matter of a few months.

Others have called out this bullshit, so let me do it again:

BULLSHIT!!!

It’s sad to hear about teenage wanna-be-bodybuilders walking around with Tupperware boxes everywhere while trying to gorge 7 meals a day like a pro bodybuilder coupled with a non-existing regime of artificial roids and growth hormones.

Anyhow, in the case of the Asian boy pictured above he is made to believe that one day he can look like the bodybuilding dude to his right. The culture we are living in promotes this mentality across the board, disillusioning young people especially and leaving them unhappy if they don’t win the Mr Olympia competition.

 

Compare Yourself with Yourself

If comparing yourself with other  people out of your league is futile and unproductive, does it make sense to compare yourself with anybody at all? Who would be ideal person to compare yourself with?

Start comparing yourself with yourself. Examine your own self from the past (maybe from one year ago), and compare that person with the person you have become one year later. If during that period, you worked hard enough and got closer to your dream body or become a more successful entrepreneur, there is absolutely no need to obsess over the achievements of others. They may still be light-years ahead of you but you were smart enough to eliminate them out of your constant comparison game that you were bound to lose no matter what.

So, stop fucking comparing yourself with others. Instead, compare yourself with your former self. This is how you will progress. With less frustration and agony. And being happier while doing it.

This website’s mantra is NOT: Become the Best Version of Someone Else.

BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF!

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  • Christina

    You talked about a topic, people often forget or don’t even think about.

    Media nowadays literally forces you to compare yourself with a general idea of how someone should look like or behave – and instead of using your own mind (Mr Kant) to change it, you start to compare with people surrounding you and with society. There should be a point in life when you’d better educate yourself from people you look up to and also broaden your horizon. I think this is a good method to „become the best version of yourself“.

    Can you recommend some inspiringing books?
    Thank you Stephan!

    • http://www.biohacks.net/ Stephan R

      Thanks for your thoughts. Surpassing the people you look up to at some point is a point that is definitely worth mentioning.

      As for book recommendations, I really can’t think of a better book than Robert Greene’s „Mastery“.